Monday, January 5, 2009

The Dagger in Men's Smiles.

I think that the phrase "There's daggers in men's smiles" is just a nice way to say back stabbing. When people are two-faced and have daggers in their smiles is when people act and talk differently around certain people. I don't see this situation too often with guys in our school, unless you're talking about Swystun because he will break you in half with his bad hand, I see it more often on the female side of our school. Most of the time it is about little pointless things that don't even matter such as who they hang out with, or what cloths they wear, or even smaller more insignificant things all to make themselves look better. Honestly, all of the backstabbing things that people do don't make much sense to me. I mean yeah, I've said some things behind someone’s back... but who hasn't. Besides, it's not like I was spreading a rumor about them killing someone or doing drugs, it probably was something that didn't even matter 10 minutes later. I mean come on, that's just not how I roll. I like to get along with everyone and not be too much of a prick most of the time. So when I see someone with a "dagger in their smile" I just laugh and walk away because I know that if they are going to lie and connive they aren't even worth my time. Don't get me wrong, I'm all for the plotting and setting up a master plan to stack somebody's locker so when they open it up all their books fall out. I mean come on, if it's not happening to you, it's hilarious. But what I can't stand is the real, behind your back, trash talk that can ruin you're reputation in the blink of an eye, when it's not even the actual truth. One instance that jumps to my mind right away is that there is this one friend of mine that is an all around nice guy. Never really done anything wrong, but he's got into a little bit of trouble here and there, but who hasn't. All of a sudden one day I hear this crazy rumor about him and at first I didn't believe it. But as the day went on I heard it more and more. So later I decided to confront him and ask him if it was a lie. As soon as the words had left my mouth I could tell that he was extremely irritated and mad that I had even said anything. I knew right away that he had been hearing it all day and that he didn't expect to be criticized by a good friend. I immediately reassured him that I didn’t believe the rumor but I just wanted to make sure. He understood and we talked about the incident. I stood by him and few days later we heard from some people who started the rumor. Later in the week we confronted the kid and he denied it all at first. We told him we knew he was lying and eventually he fessed up. He explained all about how it started and that he didn’t mean for it to get out of hand. Some kids took what he said out of context and it spread like wild fire. So we were both glad to see the problem resolved, and the rumor stopped within a day or two. It just amazes me how one joke or even a rude remark can turn into a crazy rumor that someone with a “dagger in their smile” cause use it in their favor to purposely hurt someone and try to make them feel bad about themselves. I wish that people could just be good people and stop looking at people with Daggers in their Smiles and just look at them with a smile.